I was reading an online article on how to look after yourself if you are grieving in the new year. Visit https://mindfulnessandgrief.com/manage-grief-in-the-new-year/ if you are interested.
Number 1 on the list of suggestions was to create a different style of New Year’s resolution. One which focusses on self-compassion and self-care rather than self-improvement. It made me think that whether we are grieving or not, this might be a good idea. Focus less on being better or doing things better. Focus more on taking better care of ourselves. Perhaps then we would avoid reinforcing the message that we are not good enough. Instead we might show ourselves we are worthy of care.